Submitted by caseoftheswirls
Submitted by expressiveintrovert
Wow I’m so happy we could help!! This is what the Gothic community is for, beautiful. Thank you to everyone who sent in pictures and advice :)
Okay first thing’s first - I am a metal head. I only listen two a few Goth bands, and not particularly often, if I’m honest. The important thing is that I know where my subculture has come from, I have done my fair bit of research and listening, and I appreciate where the subculture comes from.
Your sense of fashion is a personal thing, it’s no-one else’s business to tell you whether you are a ‘poser’ or not if you know that you are a Goth.
In answer to your question, it doesn’t matter in the slightest. Those who are telling you that you are a ‘poser’ are inferior, closed-minded shits that have the stupid view that every Goth should be the exact same mould. Be yourself, and you will never be a poser :)
I’m so very sorry to the anon that asked me this. I answered the question but completely forgot to post it from my drafts :(
Hello there. If you wanted to go for a more Gothic look, then I would suggest firstly to get your hands on some dress shirts (if by ‘shirts’, you mean dress shirts, then you’re already set) in black, white or other subtle colours. If you want to go a bit more into it, you could get some Victorian style shirts, although these can be a bit trickier to pull off.
Leather biker jackets, blazers and heavy winter coats all look awesome in my opinion. A nice blazer can make a simple t-shirt look rather smart.
As for trousers, I’m a big fan of black combat trousers and jeans. If you are going for jeans, don’t go super skinny if you’re going for the Gothic look, and I’m not too keen on über ripped up ones, but that’s just my opinion.
COMBAT BOOTS. Say no more.
A nice belt helps, black leather with some studs/spikes/chains. I have this belt that I wear pretty much everywhere.
If you want to be considered as a Goth rather than just dressing the part, then I would suggest educating yourself on the subculture. Listen to the music, read up about the bands etc. You don’t have to force yourself to like the music, but I really suggest gaining an understanding of where this subculture has come from and what has inspired. And referring to yourself as ‘emo’ doesn’t tend to go down that well :/
But only do and wear what you are comfortable doing and wearing. Being a Goth is about expressing yourself in the way that you want to. Make Gothic fashion your own; these are only suggestions :)
I hope this helped!
Submitted by doublepunctuation:
I am perpetually seeing things where people are questioning the “gothness” of either themselves or other people. In a subculture that is pro-individuality and seems to demonize conformity, it makes no sense to have strict molds of gothness.
There’s no such thing as a goth identity. You decide for yourself what is goth and what isn’t. If you start thinking you’re not goth enough, maybe you should stop to wonder if goth is you enough.
Thanks for the submission. I only disagree with your last line; sometimes your confidence can be knocked and if that affects you badly, you can question your own identity; it’s just a matter of building that confidence back up. And as you said, Gothic fashion isn’t a strict mold. If you are lacking the confidence to wear super ostentatious Gothic clothes, then tone it down a bit to what ever you feel you’re confident wearing.
That is actually something I forgot to mention before: starting with small steps and gradually building back up until you have your confidence.
Just clarifying: I’m not saying that people that don’t feel “goth enough” shouldn’t/don’t deserve be goth. That is absolutely ridiculous. I’m saying that it might be worth it to take a step back to see if it’s actually what you’re going for. In other words, stop trying to be goth and be more of yourself. People tend to get a bit of an inferiority complex when they step outside the solid realm of whatever their chosen subculture is “supposed” to be.
People are really quick to throw around the not-goth accusations. I’m a firm believer in You Are What You Identify As, so if a person wants to identify as goth, that’s fine. That person can either make themselves goth, which can be detrimental to their self-confidence, or make goth them. Clothes are made to fit us, we don’t fit our clothes.
I feel like that’s way too many figures of speech, but whatever.
I apologise for reading into your message wrong, thank you for clarifying though.
Submitted by littleredqueen:
Idk how short the haircut anon was, but I hope this helps her out, too! This was April 2010, but having a pixie cut was SO much fun, especially when I could spike the middle a little bit. :D It’s also much easier to dye fun colors because the bleach acts so much quicker.
Thank you :)
Thank you very much for this :)